Random thoughts: What if I decided to be a relationship guru?

I wonder how many clients I would have. Would it be a good way to make a living?

It’s just a thought that occurred to me because I know some people make a living out of giving “love advice”.

I never claimed to be a love guru, yet I have people asking me about what they should do to keep their relationship strong, or what made their relationship fail, etc. So I jokingly thought to myself, “What if I make a living out of giving love advice, how much would I make?” But, of course, since I am very generous by nature, I always feel inclined to listen and share my wisdom to them, and give them the advice and feedback they needed for free (okay, I was kidding on the wisdom and the generous by nature part. But I’m generous when it comes to sharing my opinions and insights, that’s very true).

The whole session takes a lot of time, I wonder how much I should begin charging for it… hmmm… per hour maybe (again, just kidding)? But free or not, I can’t guarantee that by taking my advice the person would have a good and happy relationship next time, or in the future. In fact, if the person really takes my advice, it’s more likely he’s going to end up alone and stay alone. But the good thing is, not only alone – but content to be alone. And I think that’s the beauty of it – the contentment. But as I said, I can’t guarantee that that would surely be the end result, because like most things in life, there’s no guarantee. Who knows if after taking my advice the person ends up miserably alone? What happens to the person after listening to my advice is beyond my control.

I do everything that I could do to render any help I could afford. I actually take time listening and digesting information for hours, to consider all aspects before I give advice. I always try to put myself in other people’s shoes first so that I can effectively feel and internalize what they’re going through. Those steps are very important procedures for me to give sound advices and suggestions. After all the internalizing, I always tell the people who seek my advice about what I would do if I were them. Whether they would actually do exactly what I would do or not, it’s up to them. What I really want them to do is learn to appreciate the beauty of their own company… to appreciate solitude.

Here’s a very good quote…

“Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” ~Hans Margolius.

Beautiful, isn’t it? What I was trying to say is a person must learn to still and calm himself in the quietness of his own heart… to get to know himself and appreciate himself, so if worse comes to worst, and he really ends up alone, he’d still find himself at peace and assured. Some people act like they couldn’t live without being in a relationship so they’re always on the lookout for a new prospect as soon as they got out of their previous relationship. It’s like they’re looking for some sort of validation. It’s a vicious cycle. I’ve encountered people like that and actually talked to some. They often tell me how they feel used and taken for granted, yet, they’d do the same thing over and over again, and cry about it over and over as well. The truth is no one can use you, if you didn’t allow yourself to be used. My take on that is stop playing the victim and take responsibility for your own actions and decisions. It’s also another way of learning about yourself. It will make you a strong person, you’ll see. ;)

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“Courage! I have shown it for years; think you I shall lose it at the moment when my sufferings are to end?” – MARIE ANTOINETTE

Marie Antoinette – What a very brave woman…

It’s unfortunate that she had to meet a tragic end.

Whenever I read articles about Marie Antoinette I can’t help but marvel at the strength of her character – her silent yet evident and notable bravery she had shown during the reign of terror. Not even for a single moment did she lose grip of her sanity nor lose grip of her dignity as a queen. She serves as an inspiration to me and hopefully to others who will take the time to really make a research and know about her real story. She was a woman of virtue and she had proven it until the end.